Don’t play the victim card if you want your wife back
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Don’t play the victim card if you want your wife back
Do you want to get your wife back after separation?
Do you want her to love you the way she used to?
If you do, then stop playing the victim card.
That’s right!
Listen to the podcast now.
In this podcast, Coach Val talks about…
1. What is the victim card.
2. Most common ways men play this card.
3. How does it kill your marriage?
4. Why do we play the victim card?
5. What should you do instead.
What did you learn from this podcast? Write it in the comments.
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June 13, 2021 @ 3:46 pm
The things which I learnt today from this podcast is Stop playing the victim card which we have been playing since the day our wife left. Second learning and implementation is important to become a good human and that will definitely keep our love story alive
June 13, 2021 @ 3:57 pm
Awesome! Thank you for sharing your learnings…
June 13, 2021 @ 11:41 pm
Playing victim card starts un continuously many times, it give us comfort, because our brain refuse to accept and refuse to change. But we need to break the shackle and start working, following the person. It’s not I am a bad person, it’s whatever I’ve done has hurt her. And playing this card will not change the scenario. So be in the right mindset, be consistent with the process, even if it’s slow but don’t stop.
June 13, 2021 @ 11:51 pm
Awesome Learning Rahul.
So true. Be consistent is the mantra.
June 13, 2021 @ 4:18 pm
I learn to take Responsibility,Learn and Implement,walk slow but never stop walking,do want needs to be done today.
June 13, 2021 @ 11:55 pm
Great! Very true. Do what needs to be done today.
June 13, 2021 @ 4:43 pm
Insightful and thought provocative podcast! Learnings are:-
(1) To come out of the thought traps of well – victim, Victimizer and Rescuer triangle structure kind
(2) Be Responsible fully. Be willing to learn, practice, implement and grow in varied dimensions of life that includes marriage
(3) Make an effort and acction to invest 45 minutes consistently everyday to acquire necessary skills, tools and techniques that to ensure and adhere to implement the procedure and principles of relationship science.
June 13, 2021 @ 11:54 pm
Awesome Ravi.
Love your way of detail study.
Keep it up.
June 13, 2021 @ 5:05 pm
Take Responsibility, Learn, Go Slow but dont stop, keep on taking even small steps which will help you to achieve your goal slowly and steadily but definitely, do not afraid of bringing change in you and be the best of you or an awesome husband and human being and then your wife cant resist herself to be with you.
June 13, 2021 @ 11:53 pm
Yes. don’t be afraid. You put it well. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
June 13, 2021 @ 8:55 pm
Move ahead and stop playing the victim card. You need to take responsibility and fix up. Continue being positive, learn and understand. There were challenges but its there in you to turn your marriage around.
All we need is to be positive, and move towards bringing your love back.
June 13, 2021 @ 11:52 pm
Awesome Russel. Very well put. Taking Responsibility is the key.
June 13, 2021 @ 9:37 pm
My learning is not to play victim card n working on self..and understand that whatever happened is happened bt I can change the situation..
June 13, 2021 @ 11:51 pm
Very well said. True. Past is over and it can’t be change.
June 15, 2021 @ 9:47 pm
Take responsibility for the pain caused to your wife. Learn and implement the best version of yourself. We are not the victim because we hurt our wife. No blame game. Be there for her and be supportive always.
June 15, 2021 @ 11:08 pm
Well said HS. We are not the victim.
July 29, 2021 @ 2:09 pm
I was playing the victim card unknowingly, even though I accepted my mistakes to her. However, even tiniest blames against her would make her think I have not changed a bit. She loved me a lot like anything but it was me to ignore and pain her all the way through.. All I’m doing now is transforming myself to be a better person and an awesome husband. I must take the responsibility to fix my marriage as I’m the reason she left me..
July 30, 2021 @ 12:38 am
Such an amazing insight.
All the best to you.
September 23, 2021 @ 4:08 pm
When conflict arises both express their own version. Wife being humiliated by husband a victimiser. Husband contrary holding wife indifferent, insensible and callous in her approach. She is not even acknowledging the good deeds done to her, her kith n kin, financial empowerment and welfare done to her when she is sick, accepting her disability is reciprocated. Then the husband goes hammer and tongs playing victim card. This has further damaged the relationship. प्यार करे आरी चलाववे ऐसे आशिक से डारीओ। मे मायके चली जाऊंगी तुम देखते रहिओ। Now she is away and blocked me. Love is not an oscilating pendulum. Nor changes according to seasons. True love is not exhibited it’s inherent. Love is not volatile that evoporates, it percolates deep into both. So both need to be sensible and responsive.
April 15, 2022 @ 2:15 pm
Awesome insight!
October 4, 2021 @ 12:26 pm
Dear Coach
Very Important Podcast..
Really helpful.
Not to play victim card.
Not to become victim.
Like example – If you are fall in well and everyone ask how you fall and we also tell whole story and they are only giving suggestions and all wrong suggestions.
We may tell
My story us unique.
I have done this and that.
Our brain hides our own mistakes.
Its very easy to play victim card but its obstacle.
Walk slow but never stop walking is superb line in this podcast.
Thanks
October 11, 2021 @ 1:13 pm
Thank you for sharing your learnings.
October 4, 2021 @ 8:36 pm
The 2 best inside from this podcast
Take responsibility of your marriage
and make that effort to change and show
If we have pity at ourselves then stop insulting ourself and start doing things which are required for changing
October 11, 2021 @ 1:12 pm
I loved your comment.
Let’s take responsibility.
November 13, 2021 @ 12:00 am
Need to understand my mistakes and become a better human bein to learn and implement
It is because of the hurt caused by me that she left ,
I want to change
November 24, 2021 @ 11:34 pm
Great Realisation. Thank you for sharing.
December 26, 2021 @ 3:09 pm
No further discussion with anyone which sounds like a victim card and start working on me and get my wife back with love to live a happy and improved life going forward.
December 27, 2021 @ 3:35 pm
Playing the victim card never works.
March 21, 2022 @ 12:50 pm
Great learning and a healthy approach.
Thank you for sharing
January 9, 2022 @ 10:01 pm
The first thing i learnt from this is how i ruined my marriage by playing victim and taking the advice from others. Its easy to quit but very difficult to take the responsibility and fix it. Now onwards i will definitely apply these rules not only in my marriage but in different aspect of my problem. Thank you val sir for this wonderful podcast.
April 15, 2022 @ 2:07 pm
Good realisation!
Happy to know that you found the webinar useful.
January 27, 2022 @ 2:36 pm
By hearing to this podcast. I learnt that instead playing victim card I need to focus on myself and transform myself and now actively working to bring my back my wife back and start a new love story. But still no change happened.
March 21, 2022 @ 1:02 pm
Awesome insight!
Be patient and keep learning. Soon you would see changes in yourself and your relationship.
February 10, 2022 @ 9:49 am
With this podcast I got some primary path on how to proceed ahead. But My journey is very very tough. I will succeed in it. I stopped playing victim card.
March 21, 2022 @ 1:08 pm
Happy to know of this small yet important change in you.
Good luck!
May 24, 2022 @ 12:23 am
Really I did these victim cards. Always feel good and I was good.. only my wife was wrong.. feeling poor. This is wrong… stop this.. and appreciate wife love atmosphere… not critize
May 24, 2022 @ 8:08 pm
Good insight Savan!
All the best!
May 29, 2022 @ 5:42 pm
Its incredible how true this podcast rings in my case. I have done all this since my wife left me. Beginning to see things in a different light now.
May 31, 2022 @ 2:39 pm
Great realization!
June 1, 2022 @ 4:54 pm
Admiring the time and energy you put into your site and detailed information you offer. It’s awesome to come across a blog every once in a while that isn’t the same old rehashed material. Wonderful read! I’ve saved your site and I’m including your RSS feeds to my Google account.
June 2, 2022 @ 11:52 am
Happy to know. Thanks for saving!
July 4, 2023 @ 5:07 pm
Take charge of your marriage . Be the awsome person and getting wife back is a byproduct
July 13, 2023 @ 11:01 am
You got it right!
December 5, 2023 @ 12:43 pm
In all walks of my life I was thinking I am right. Never thought I could be wrong. U are showing what reality is. I am in victim mind set right now also. Never took responsibility for all that happening. I wanted to be always poor me. Let me think in different aspect. Learn, implement and become good person. Thank U for showing my mistake.
March 15, 2025 @ 8:21 pm
Wow!!! Powerful Vijay.
More power to you.